Personal Health

Simple Acts goes a long way in Comforting the Bereaved

The terminally ill patient has died, the funeral arrangements made, visitation , and burial rites are over, so you attended the funeral, because one of your co-worker died now what.? What do you say to the widow or widower, is it sorry about the lost of your wife, or husband he /she was a good person, shake hands and you leave never to see or hear from the widow or widower again.

The question about what to say when someone dies to the relatives has long been a problem for most of us, but as you attend funerals you will pick up on words people say, and do after the death of a friend. I cannot tell you what to say or do, but as a human being lending a hand to that individual or doing little things for them goes a long way.

Since the individual that died was either a co-worker or friend you may have heard them mentioned what they were planning to do around the house, and did not  finish the project, here is the opportunity for you to say to the widow, that I can finish that job for you since it is not completed.

By simple extending your services to the grieving person whether she hears you is one of the many acts that are comforting to the bereaved. The mere fact that you can take time out from your busy life to help someone that is grieving goes a long way, the task does not have to be big, little things like asking the person out for lunch, shopping,going for coffee, playing bridge, potlucks, baking a cake and popping by and making a phone call would be appreciated.

Most men do not know what to say in times like this, but doing yard work especially if you live next door to the bereaved driving to the grocery store, to the grave site for a visit, also helps the person, this would be a compassionate thing since the person is still not functioning and up to par.

One have to show patience with the grieving person, they would be down days where all he/she wants to do is talk, and cry this is healthy for the person, by letting them verbalized would help release stress, simple acts of kindness goes a long way, and would always be remembered by the bereaved person of the kind acts that was done for them while in their grieving stages of the loss of their loved one.